To be alone is the most important skill we have lost

Progress has given us so much, but deprived of an important opportunity to look inside yourself.

Scientist and philosopher Blaise Pascal once said: “All the problems of humanity stem from the inability to sit quietly alone.” We are afraid of silence and boredom. To escape from them and from their emotions, we are constantly looking for entertainment. We do not know how to be alone. Why is this happening and what to do, said blogger and founder of educational project Design Luck Zet Rana (Rana Zat).

Statement of Pascal is particularly relevant today. If you can use one word to describe the progress of technology over the past 100 years, it would be the word “connectedness.” Telephone, radio, television and the Internet have brought us closer with other people.

We live in a world where we feel connected with all, except myself.

Almost everyone thinks that they know themselves: their feelings, desires and problems. In fact, it is not so. We are increasingly alienated from themselves. Than nekomfortnye you alone, the higher the probability that you bad know. It is possible to dissociate oneself from the discomfort by finding their own entertainment. But this discomfort still not going anywhere. But in the process will develop a dependence on technology.

Our dislike of loneliness — it’s actually a dislike of boredom.

We become addicted to TV because they watch it a pleasant surprise. Rather, we are dependent on the lack of boredom. We can’t imagine what it’s like to just be and do nothing. Therefore, looking for entertainment and society, and if they don’t help — something more extreme.

As a result, we experience anxiety and feel lonely, despite the close relationship with the surrounding world. Fortunately, there is a solution. The only way to deal with fear is to face it. So let boredom to take over themselves. Then you’ll finally hear your thoughts and understand what’s going on in your head.

You will notice that being alone isn’t so bad. Boredom can also inspire. You better know yourself. See things as they are. Learn to pay attention to something that you usually don’t notice.

Take boredom to a new look at things and resolve internal conflicts.

Of course, alone thoughts sometimes turn in an unpleasant direction. Especially when you think about your feelings, doubts and hopes. And yet it’s healthier than unconsciously to avoid such reflections.

Without understanding yourself there will be no Foundation on which to build the rest of life. Perhaps the ability to be alone will not solve all problems but it will help to start.

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